San Antonio's Rockstar Turned Realtor®: If you didn't read it, you can't truly react to it.

If you didn't read it, you can't truly react to it.

The words

Have you heard a single word I said?

Immediately after reading the title, I suspect everyone will think that I am talking about me, but I'm really just making a generalized statement here.  It occurred while reading a post by a fellow ActiveRain member that (strangely enough) was a re-blog of something I had written.  I had forgotten the post, so I quickly re-read through the re-blog.

The fellow blogger had written a great intro to my post and shared some of their thoughts and feelings about what I had written - in my opinion, the only way re-blogging should really be done.  It was encouraging to see their opinions of what I had written about which took me further into the post and down into the comments.

I love comments and will always consider them a part of the post as a whole.  I'm very particular about commenting and what it means to me, but that is neither here no there.  The comments in this particular blog were a mixture of thoughts and feelings about both my original post and this particular member's introduction to the re-blog.

Then came the comments that distracted me from the post and had me over here tapping away at my keyboard.  Two comments in particular, both with the same issue: the comments were about the events in my post, but directed to the re-blogger.  In this particular case, it was quite clear that the commenters had read the post (or at least part of it) and attributed their "congratulations" back to the re-blogger.  In reading just the introduction, it was quite clear that this person had not done the things I wrote about in my post, but yet somehow these two people had just skipped over that fact.

Read it and react to it.

I don't really care about the pat on the back that they handed to someone else, this isn't an ego competition for me.  What concerned me was that someone used up a piece of their day (an albeit small one I would hope) to say something that had absolutely no meaning behind it, because they didn't take the time to read and comprehend what the post was about.  Were they ActiveRain point seekers, looking to pass their next milestone or were they just skimming through posts, assuming everything in between the lines on their own?  Either is dangerous from where I stand.

Posts take time and effort for bloggers and from my experience, most bloggers have a tendency to put their heart and soul into their efforts.  When someone comes along and ignores those efforts and just comments for the sake of throwing their name out there, we all suffer.  There has been a lot of talk about the value of the community here at ActiveRain in regards to the recent there really strength in the community if we're just commenting for commenting's sake?  Of course not.  Adding value through commenting is a core concept of any blog, but in particular a blogging community such as ActiveRain.

So read the posts, react to them, start a discussion, agree or disagree.  Don't just throw out the "well done" and "I agree" comments.  Be a part of something.  On my own blog, I have begun to limit the responses to comments.  I used to reply to everyone, but now I try and limit my "thanks for stopping by" comments in order to focus in on what I believe to be the more important part of blogging - the exchange and flow of ideas and opinions.  So while I may comment back to you, it may not always happen.  Not because I'm not thankful that you stopped by, but because I want us all to build off of each idea and see where it leads, not spend our days telling each other how great we're all doing.

I have a bigger mission than just stroking my own (or anyone else's) ego, I hope you do too.

photo courtesy of ganesha.isis

Comment balloon 73 commentsMatt Stigliano • May 05 2010 12:57PM


nice article, Great write up! I have found people will reblog articles but just cut & paste the article, they should be cut off the AR

Posted by Ken's Home Team LLC. | 360.609.0226 | Portland, OR & Vancouver, WA Real Estate Team, - SOLD IS OUR FAVORITE 4 LETTER WORD - (Ken's Home Team LLC.) about 10 years ago

Matt, thank you very much for posting, we learn so much from Active Rain blogs.

Posted by Malcolm Johnston, Trenton Real Estate (Century 21 Lanthorn Real Estate LTD., Trenton, Ontario) about 10 years ago

I agree with you. I think they were only concerned with the points. While that fact may bother some, I don't worry about someone padding their stats. I'm only concerned with what's important to me, learning something from the post and maybe adding something of value to it. 

Posted by Terry Lynch (LAR Notary and Closing Services) about 10 years ago

Oh Matt, I see it all the time. I always cringe when someone attributes me to the author. 

But, you know, I know that people skim blogs and don't really read. 

Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) about 10 years ago

Hey, congratulations on the new 'Blah, blah, blah" underwear!

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) about 10 years ago

Interesting points you raise, Matt.  Your line about the sadness in someone using up part of their day to say something that had absolutely no meaning behind it struck a chord with me.  Time is so precious.  And while I agree that being part of a discussion is fulfilling, I also like to pat others on the back...and I like to be patted too.  Life is tough sometimes. Work is tough sometimes.  Encouragement and support are valuable to me.  Mindless words are not. -- Tanya in Montreal

Posted by Tanya Nouwens, Montreal Real Estate Broker & Stager (RE/MAX ROYAL (JORDAN) INC. / Tanya Nouwens Inc. about 10 years ago

Hi Matt,

Huh? Did you say something? LOL

I hear ya' and agree 150%. I try to write blogs that open up discussions and absolutely hate cookie cutter responses.

There's one couple around here who I swear just comment with the exact same thing on every blog, something like: Great post. We learn so much on Active Rain.

You gotta wonder, if they take shortcuts like that on here to get points, what are they like conducting business?

Posted by Not In Real Estate Any Longer about 10 years ago

I see Malcolm is up to stealing other peoples comments. This must be stopped as it is a form of plagiarism, just like you said in your well written post. Thanks, so much.

Posted by Glenn Roberts (Retired) about 10 years ago

Perhaps AR should remove the "points" part of commenting?

Posted by Rick Phillips, I care about you and your transaction. (Frankly Realty - Old Town) about 10 years ago

Great post.  We learn so much on Active Rain.

Just kidding.  I think a lot of it does have to do with the points, but a great deal of it (outside of AR) is that we are "taught" by the "experts" that if you want more traffic back to your site you have to post on a minimum of 5 blogs a day.

The so-called experts rarely teach that you need to add something of value in those comments in order to actually drive in traffic.


Posted by April Sullivan, Real Estate Virtual Assistant (Real Estate Virtual Assistant Chick) about 10 years ago

In addition to those that comment mindlessly are the skimmers who miss the entire point of a post and comment somewhere out in left field on a completely different topic.  Sometimes I just want to say "did you even READ this?".   Oh, and I'm glad that I'm not the only one who considers the comments part of the post.  Often, they are the best part!

Posted by Lisa Heindel, New Orleans Real Estate Broker (Crescent City Living LLC) about 10 years ago

I just roll my eyes when I see generic comments.  I especially love the comments about the blog based on the title and not the content.  I think the information is key and not the credit.  I rarely re-blog and only when it is info that is an industry update that I feel the masses need to read.

Posted by Kyle Jan, Phoenix AZ Homes for Sale about 10 years ago

Well done.  I agree.

Just kidding...I couldn't resist!  Seriously, I do agree with you.  Those of us who put our hearts and souls into producing good, useful content appreciate remarks that have some substance to them.  I never heard the statistic that April quotes (above) about being taught that you need to post on 5 blogs a day, but that and the point-seekers would explain many of those useless remarks.

Posted by Kate Wheeler, CCIM - Murphy NC Real Estate for Sale (Country Homes and Land Murphy NC Realtor ) about 10 years ago

well done,LOL! No, it is amazing the comments can be so vague or totally off base like they didn't actually read the post at all. Maybe some don't have an opinion or have a hard time expressing it.

Posted by Mike Russell, Overland Park Kansas Real Estate (Mike Russell & Associates) about 10 years ago

Matt - There are lots of folks who just skim a post, sometimes the title only, and then comment on what they "assume" the post is addressing. I regularly receive comments from people who have obviously not read the entire post. And some re-blog without understanding the original intent.

Posted by John Mulkey, Housing Guru ( about 10 years ago


Posted by Nogui Aramburo, Real Estate Professional in the Raleigh Area (Linda Craft & Team, REALTORS®) about 10 years ago

Just kidding, had to get that in there, but really, it is a great post. People should read the whole damn post instead of going for the 25 points and dropping a lame "great post" comment. I have been guilty of this :-).

Posted by Nogui Aramburo, Real Estate Professional in the Raleigh Area (Linda Craft & Team, REALTORS®) about 10 years ago

I'm not sure what concerns you as you've brought up so many topics!  I'm going to say your more upset about people NOT reading the post and putting in a comment that makes no sense to the topic.  How about the 'you mean one thing' and everyone else reads something different?  So your post seems mute.

Posted by Lyn Sims, Schaumburg Real Estate (RE/MAX Suburban) about 10 years ago

Hope you are recovering from the blahs today, Matt. Yes, I am KIDDING.

Posted by Kate Kate about 10 years ago

I must admit I once, inadvertently, responded to a reblogged post as if the reblogger had written it.  I didn't know about the process then. 

I also don't get those generic comments at all.  Are people that desparate for 25 points?

Posted by Geri Sonkin, Long Island Real Estate & Staging Expert (Douglas Elliman Real Estate 516-457-7103) about 10 years ago

Whenever I read a re-blog, I go to the original post.  That way when I make a comment, the original writer can see it.  When I re-blog an article it's usually because I want my local market to see and read it--not to get comments or points from AR.  I use that same strategy when I read a re-blog.  I don't think the re-blogger necessarily wants credit for something he didn't say, I think he feels it was important enough for others to read.  And hopefully others will actually read the post and not just skim it.

Posted by Tammie White, Broker, Franklin TN Homes for Sale (Franklin Homes Realty LLC) about 10 years ago

I seems like there may be two ways to respond to a post. Maybe not ... I haven't had any official training on blogging. But, at times I want to respond to the post itself (alone), and at other times I take the entire post as a whole to get a greater perspective. I think both have a place ... am I out in left field here?

Posted by Scott Lewis, REALTOR, e-Pro,CIA,IMSD,GRI & CNE (The Bald Man Group) about 10 years ago

I have seen that happen... sometimes the comments here are gobbledy gook, and I think there are those among us who do not understand Re-Blog even if it says it is a Re-Blog and the intro  say it is a Re-Blog.  I know we have some challenged individuals here when it comest to reading posts and comprehending.

I hate the fact that people use comments to say "Good Post" rather than talk about the topic of the post or even NOT the topic of the post but just use comment for a "suck up " to the blogger kind of thank you note, rather than conversation.  There is a lot of that on AR I always thought it was the points but I see more and more of it outside ActiveRain lately.

I seldom Re-Blog anything but content written for consumers.  When I have Re-Blogged professional content I turn off comments and state they should comment on the original post in most cases.

Posted by Maureen McCabe, Columbus Ohio Real Estate (HER Realtors) about 10 years ago


Having seen the same many times, I tend to turn off comments on the rare occassions when I reblog.  Perhaps all reblogs should be comment-less?

Posted by Irene Kennedy Realtor® in Northwestern NJ (Weichert) about 10 years ago

Hi Matt, On the rare occasion that I re-blog, I also disable commenting and direct everyone to the original member. I do not feel right to take credit on something I didn't write. That's just me :) I also do not comment when someone says, "great post". I reply to the members that actually read my post. What is worse is when someone gets my name wrong when they comment. And btw, Great Post! Yes, really :)

Posted by Jackie Connelly-Fornuff, "Moving at The Speed of YOU!" (Douglas Elliman Real Estate in Babylon NY) about 10 years ago


It's been interesting to see how much I missed AR, logging in, but even more so the commenting part that allows us to have a "meaningful conversation" in the social media world.  

Great points and post.  It should definitely be thought out.  

All the best, Michelle

Posted by Michelle Francis, Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease (Tim Francis Realty LLC) about 10 years ago

Meaningful comments are great, however, some posts also don't inspire much of a comment.   I think people should comment the way they want to -- who cares if their motivation is points or not.  The people who have something meaningful to share will do so.  The ones who just want to give a little courteous encouragement will say, "nice post."  It's not such a bad comment to receive.  AR could always install a "like" button (LOL)!

Posted by Melanie Hedrick, 972-816-7205 (Elite Texas Properties, the best homes from McKinney to Dallas!) about 10 years ago

Matt-nice post.  Oh wait you wanted a reaction from someone who read the post.  I've learned to ignore the comments that are unresponsive to the content.  When it comes to a reblog I try to remember to turn off the comments.  The original blogger is the one who did all the work not me.

Posted by Cindy Jones, Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News (Integrity Real Estate Group) about 10 years ago

Melanie wrote:

The ones who just want to give a little courteous encouragement will say, "nice post."  It's not such a bad comment to receive.  AR could always install a "like" button (LOL)!


You can put a like button on a post.  I think I removed the one I put on a reblog because it is up under the intro.

There was a post on the dashboard telling how to put a like button on your post.

Use this Facebook Like Button

Put the post URL in where it asks for it.  pick light, dark or evil.  add the html to the post. 

About 1/3 of members polled would rather another member move along rather than " give a little courteous encouragement will say, "nice post." ... or maybe the % is smaller as great R.E. bloggers have left AR in part because of the GPTFS comments.  There is nothing courteous about it IMHO>


Posted by Maureen McCabe, Columbus Ohio Real Estate (HER Realtors) about 10 years ago

I agree with you wholeheartedly Matt.  I never comment on a blog post just to score points.  Which is why I may only comment on one or two.  I select the posts that I'm most interested in or those that I might be able to add a different point of view or some advice to the blogger.  Keep up the good work and best of luck to you.

Posted by Jerry Murphy, CRS, SRES, Anthem, Phoenix, and Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Long Realty West Valley) about 10 years ago

If I don't think I have something of value to add with a comment I won't comment. I think a lot of people will skim through an article so I can see how that can happen, but you still need to deliver a quality comment in regards to what the blogger is talking about.

Posted by Danny Nappi (Zest Realty) about 10 years ago

When reblogging first started I couldn't figure out why.  After a while I thought it must be a good idea.  Judging by how many people re-blog post after post after post, I don't think they are a good idea anymore.  At any rate, comments should be disabled on any reblog.

Posted by Bob Willis, Orange County & L.A. County Real Estate Agent (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties) about 10 years ago

Matt - I understand completely that there are many "speed readers" out there and when they credit me with something I have obviously re-blogged I too cringe... Hmmmm maybe I should re-blog this too... just kidding... Nice post ....

Posted by Robert Hammerstein, Bergen County NJ Real Estate (Christie's International Real Estate ) about 10 years ago

Matt - I get equally bothered by both of the things you describe here.  It bugs me someone doesn't seem to notice that the post they are commenting on is a re-blog, especially when there is a lengthy intro explaining same.  However, I am more bothered by the second issue you mentioned, namely commenting without reading and/or understanding the jist of the post.  Take a little extra time, and you won't come across as foolish, right?

Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) about 10 years ago

They will always be around.  Save your energy for deserving folk.


Posted by Lenn Harley, Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland (Lenn Harley,, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate) about 10 years ago

While interesting and conversation provoking comments are always preferred, I still think there is a little value in getting a bland "thanks for posting" comment.  With such a comment, at the very least, the blogger knows who's reading his post and that it was met with some degree of approval.  It seems better than receiving 0 comments where the blogger has no idea what anyone's opinion of the post was -- to me, that seems more discouraging. How pitiful that anyone would actually quit AR because they thought comments were marginal.  I wonder if those who quit are happy now, or if they have found something else to complain about.

I confess there have been many times where I've read a post and just had nothing I cared to add to it -- not even "nice post".  Posts are written for different reasons and they don't all inspire comments.  A writer looking for decent comments needs to write in a way that actually promotes some discussion -- which, clearly, Matt's post has done.  Good job, Matt!

Posted by Melanie Hedrick, 972-816-7205 (Elite Texas Properties, the best homes from McKinney to Dallas!) about 10 years ago

Laughing as I found a comment among these and thought to myself... they didn't read this post did they?  I find one of the most important things you said is that "comments" become part of the whole post.  I've taken over an hour to read a post that had hundreds of comments with great discussion about a topic I felt was important enough to me to read ALL of it, all the post and ALL the comments to see if my own opinion might be swayed one way or another.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) about 10 years ago

Hi Matt - I have blogged about this too.  What gets me is when I see someone who posts the exact same comment to all of his posts.  It's something like:  "Thank you for this insightful post.  I have learned a lot from it."  

I wouldn't mind if that were a genuine heartfelt comment, but when it is attached to a Speechless Sunday photo or a joke on the same day as they commented on my post, in the exact words and by the same person, it is clear that it is a case of commenting for points by someone who doesn't even look at the post - just plugs in the standard words to get 25 points. I don't get it.

Posted by Susan Neal, Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker (RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks) about 10 years ago

Just getting my 25 points... just kidding. Sorry if it bothered you too much, but it was funny to me and I think you have a LOT of people on your side on this one, whether they chime in or not :)

Posted by Kristen Correa, Broker, I love coffee & real estate. I am out of coffee! (Kristen Correa Real Estate & Reedy Creek Realty Services) about 10 years ago

Matt, I generally find re=blogs redundant.  I try to read the entire post as well as comments...sometimes I don't hit all the comments.  In my short time in the Rain I have found the information to be of great value.  I have also found that a lot of us seem to have a common issue with wanting to answer (comment) before we here (read) the entire post.  Have a Great Week!

Posted by John Howard, GRI, Mountain Home, Arkansas 870-404-3614 (Century 21 LeMac Realty) about 10 years ago

I don't re-blog a lot, but there are times when I wonder if I should cut off the comments for the post.  I bothers me that people think I created something that I didn't.  I don't want to take credit for someone else's thoughts...  Share, yes.  Take credit, no. 

And of course the people that can't read pas tthe title make me a little nuts, too.

Posted by Lane Bailey, Realtor & Car Guy (Century 21 Results Realty) about 10 years ago

Well done. I agree. OMG< just kidding! :-)

I understand your concern, and do, in fact, agree. I feel that too many people don't read the whole thing. Maybe sometimes it is too long (as I have learned from my AR blogging classes -- I need to shorten my posts -- so maybe the pre-post before the re-blog made the whole thing too extensive to get through?).

In any case, you still get the points b/c of reblogging, so there *is* a bit of a bright side, right? ;-)

Posted by Marney Kirk, Towson, Maryland Real Estate (Cummings & Co. Realtors) about 10 years ago

(PS I was TOTALLY hoping you would hide something really *wrong* in here to figure out if we were really reading). :-)

Posted by Marney Kirk, Towson, Maryland Real Estate (Cummings & Co. Realtors) about 10 years ago

I have seen this also, Matt, when I reblog a post and someone congratulates ME as if I wrote it! It's a dead giveaway that they didn't actually read the blog, or they wouldn't have said that. Oh well, takes all kinds...

Posted by Sharon Alters, Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL (Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308) about 10 years ago

Matt, what you have addressed here is one of the major reasons why I refused initially to allow comments on reblogged posts. I may just go back to that practice, should I decide to reblog any future posts.

Posted by William James Walton Sr., Greater Waterbury Real Estate (WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group) about 10 years ago

Great post, thanks for sharing


Just kidding!

This drives me batty.  Someone suggested that they take away points for comments.  Maybe they should make the comments a minimum of so many words to be pointed.  You did generate some good comments that go beyond one line!

FYI, Just like William James Walton, Sr, I do not allow commenting on my reblogs.  I feel like the comments deserve to go back to OP (original poster) and since I didn't write the piece I don't feel qualified to answer questions or defend the post.

Posted by Renée Donohue~Home Photography, Western Michigan Real Estate Photographer (Savvy Home Pix) about 10 years ago

Frankly, I love it when people agree with me and tell me how good a post I wrote might be. I don't expect everyone to have some sort of profound insight or epiphany from what I write. 

Posted by J. Philip Faranda, Broker-Owner (J. Philip Faranda (J. Philip R.E. LLC) Westchester County NY) about 10 years ago

Hi Matt -- I think there is a difference between a fairly benign response in that one really never knows if the commenter really agrees, but can make an assumption they did.  The comments I dislike are the ones that are so obvious that it's irrelevant to the post, so why bother?  I do think as long as points are involved, this will be somewhat the norm, but in an ideal world, dialog would rule.

Posted by Chris Olsen, Broker Owner Cleveland Ohio Real Estate (Olsen Ziegler Realty) about 10 years ago

Very true! Great post.


Posted by Tom Ramsey (Century 21 Northland) about 10 years ago

I have just read your well-written post and most of the comments that were longer than two lines. Judgmental, I'm sure, but quantity of words might reflect the value. Here are some of my thoughts on blogging, reblogging and commenting:

1) Blogging on a commercial site is an interesting mix of personal interests, a communicator's attempts to communicate, and usually a hope for commercial reward. Face it, everyone here on AR presumably has a business interest in selling real estate or selling real estate-related services.

2) I regularly ponder on the idea of "finding your voice" in blogging. Recently I spoke at a sales meeting of very experienced agents and I had to carefully explain that blogging is about communicating who and what you are to an audience larger than one a person can traditionally interact with. The trick is to decide what you want to say and who you want to say it to. I tried to explain the transition from advertising and promoting to communicating ideas, concepts and information. The blank faces not withstanding, if I can't explain in short simple words what I am doing and where I think we're going, I can't bring anyone else along.

3) Once we all agree that a blog is a platform for communication to an audience larger than one person can call around to every day, I think we could agree that reblogging is to be expected and welcomed. At least none of my intentions are particularly nefarious.

4) I think it's OK to reblog if a post is interesting and I have something interesting to say about it, add to it, or even argue about, this is part of presenting my set of views to the world.

5) Sometimes a post or a series of posts is on a subject in which I have no expertise and I think people who read my blog will learn from it, so this is a good time for a reblog. Drew Sygit's series on "legal ramifications of short sales for agents" is a perfect example. I am using Drew's articles to explain to my clients that I have reasons for certain decisions and practices. That is classic real estate "source of the source".

6) Comments can have all sorts of motives: I personally love a pat on the back, so I assume other people do, too. But honestly, if I take the time to write "really well-written and you made me think about xyz.." I actually mean it. I guess I don't understand the points thing....if someone wants to play that game that's their time and trouble, not mine. I see that I am beginning to use comments to start ideas for my own posts. And this might be one....what do you think about a post about a post on posts and comments?






Posted by Leslie Ebersole, I help brokers build businesses they love. (Swanepoel T3 Group) about 10 years ago


I have had that happened to blogs I have re-blogged before, but never to my blogs that were re-blogged by others.

Posted by Aaron Vaughn, REALTOR© 512-845-4204, My knowledge is your power | eXp Realty (eXp Realty) about 10 years ago

Is it possible the commenters on the reblog simply missed the one line that said "Via Matt Stigliano ..."? Maybe the intro was so well written that it just flowed seamlessly into your content.

Posted by John Novak, Henderson, Las Vegas and Summerlin Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty The Marketplace) about 10 years ago

Huh? What di you say? Oh yeah, so what was the original post?

Posted by Mike Wong, Realtor: Commercial, Residential, Leasing, Invest (Keller Williams Realty Southwest) about 10 years ago

Matt - I enjoyed this. AND I read it. I guess one could throw in the Comment Pasters to this mix. We have a number of serial comment pasters here - it's clearly for the points.

The comments, generally, add tremendous value to the discussion and often take the topic to a new level. I suppose if people want to just comment without reading, regardless of their motivation, that's their prerogative. Unfortunately the point systems seems to cultivate that approach in some.


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) about 10 years ago

Member after member says they turn off comments, when they Re-Blog.  There are reasons not to. Lenn Harley never (overstatetment??? maybe she does sometime)  turns off comments.. 

OK just so no one has to argue that Lenn often does NOT turn off comments.

There is NO rule you have to.

From my observation Lenn often Re-Blogs and leaves comments on.  Lenn often takes the conversation in another direction. She was the first person I saw use Re-Blog to Re-butt.

I was kind of surprised tonight to find a looooooooooooong and semi snotty (KNOW IT ALL)  response from a former ActiveRain employee turned social media expert to a post I wrote, on Lenn's Re-Blog of my post. Why would he not answer me on my post? Or maybe there is something in the two comments I left on Lenn's Re-Blog that he is answering in his response on the Re-Blog. It is pretty windy so I have not really sorted through the responsie to me.. he starts the comment on Lenn's Re-Blog "Maureen"  so I would guess the social media expert is talking to me.


Posted by Maureen McCabe, Columbus Ohio Real Estate (HER Realtors) about 10 years ago

I always attribute the "Great Post" comments to point mongers or to those who are new to AR and just aren't comfortable yet.  When I see about a dozen of these from the same person - I recognize them as point hoarders and don't take time to respond. 

Posted by Ruthmarie Hicks (Keller Williams NY Realty - 120 Bloomingdale Road #101, White Plains NY 10605) about 10 years ago

For me, this falls into the 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff' category. I think sometimes if someone just skimmed the post then the post was way too long! If they just left a brief comment, then at least they stopped by!

Posted by Pam Turner, REALTOR®, e-PRO®, SFR (Century 21 Belk Realtors Dalton GA) about 10 years ago

Matt, A few different things ran thru my head. First, I seldom reblog, I always forget to turn off the comments, just because I guess I do it so rarely. Second, funny me, but I like it when I get a pat on the back or an I was here comment from someone in my little circle. It is encouragement. There are people who miss the point, ah well, such is life. And what I really find funny is that sometimes the ones who miss the point are people I am surprised about! But then I realized that we all see things differently, perhaps what was the point to me was not the point to them after all. Hmmm...

Posted by Andrea Swiedler, Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties) about 10 years ago

I have been amazed at how few seem to realize a post is a re-blog !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by Michael J. Perry, Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist (KW Elite ) about 10 years ago

A lot of people are just so busy commenting or chasing points that they don't read the whole blog article.  Just too busy busy.

Posted by Rob Arnold, Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F (Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc.) about 10 years ago

I not only enjoy reading the blog but I usually learn even more by reading all the comments!

Posted by Pippa Mac, The Woodlands TX Real Estate (Chevaux Group Realtor, The Woodlands and Spring) about 10 years ago

I see this happen everyday. What is really funny is when someone skims a post, completely misses the point, and comments to something that is exactly contrary to what was said! Dyslectic skimming!

Posted by Mark Hall, Homes for Sale Vancouver Washington (Realty One Group Cascadia) about 10 years ago

This post could serve as a must-read for every real estate professional looking to engage with social media to strengthen, and widen, their sphere of influence:  there's no faking it!

Many (most, really) professionals who work in sales have a unique brain-style difference that "paints with a big brush."  This is a good thing, and part of their giftedness for sales work. However, a part of job does involve details and active-listening.  It behooves us to train ourselves to focus and read carefully -- be it contracts, or blog posts!

We are becoming a nation of "skimmers." Perhaps what will separate the great from the good, is the ability to paint with both a big brush and a fine brush, depending on what's needed in the moment.


Posted by Dane Findley, Luxury Real Estate Marketing Specialist ( about 10 years ago

Hey Mark- I agree with everything you said here!  I hate it when people talk too much, it's annoying. 

Sorry Matt, I couldn't resist! I'm just kidding of course. 

Seriously though, I never comment on a post unless I've read it and taken the time to understand the author's message.  I know that they took time out of their day to write it, the least I can do is acknowledge that their post was read.  It's not just about how many points I've racked up, it's also all the great people on AR that keeps me here.

And those crazy comments from people we know didn't read the blog, well, they're just calling attention to themselves in a negative way.  I just ignore them and move on to the next comment that has something real to say.  Good post.


Posted by Emma Vargas, Simply Staging (Simply Staging) about 10 years ago

DId you know that in the city of Dallas, you can get a ticket for wearing pants so low that your underwear shows??  Pull your pants up!  LOL

Posted by Donna Harris, Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator (Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - about 10 years ago

I've been guilty of not noticing that the post was a re-blog, usually because the re-blogger didn't really add anything to the original post and I skimmed over the blue link at the top. I'm also guilty of skimming posts in general (there are only so many minutes in the day and far more stuff for me to read than minutes) but I don't usually comment on the ones that I skim. If I don't care enough to read the whole post, I definitely don't care enough to comment.

And I fully expect a 'Thanks for stopping by, Julia' (including name reference) otherwise I'll be crushed!

Posted by Julia Odom, Chattanooga Homes for Sale (Select Realty Professionals) about 10 years ago

Many times when reading through comments I'll hit one (usually more than one on a post with a lot of comments), where I want to comment specifically to them and ask if they actually read the post. 

I recently posted a new listing for an Oak Lawn home and was congratulated on my new Orland Park listing by the only two people that made a comment.  The first commenter made the mistake and the 2nd commenter followed - sounds like she read the comment and didn't really pay attention to the actual post.  I even did a double take to make sure I hadn't made a typo, but it was correct.  It was also listed in the proper Localism area.

Posted by Judy Orr, SW & Near West Chicago suburbs (HomeSmart Realty Group) about 10 years ago

I concur with your thoughts on reading stuff.  Sometimes I reblog with no comments just to get it in front of more people and because the information is so good I want it on my sites.

Posted by Gene Riemenschneider, Turning Houses into Homes (Home Point Real Estate) about 10 years ago

Matt - It's kind of deflating when half of the comments are "good job" or "great post." I still feel compelled to respond to these in some way but usually take the opportunity to go off in my own direction. I had a featured post a while back that mentioned Facebook being to intrusive but the point of the post was to bring attention to real estate websites that demand personal information. Very few of the comments even mentioned the topic. It was very apparent that the title was read and little else. You can bring a person to the post but you can't make 'em read it.

Posted by Dynamic Page Solutions (Dynamic Page Solutions) about 10 years ago

How do you expect some of these posters to get 250 points in 5 minutes if they have to read the WHOLE post?  I think you are asking a lot of them.  (This was meant to be sarcastic and funny)  I do know what you mean.  I read comments sometimes and I just want to congratulate the commenter on the 25 points.

Posted by Damon Gettier, Broker/Owner ABRM, GRI, CDPE (Damon Gettier & Associates, REALTORS- Roanoke Va Short Sale Expert) about 10 years ago

Well, I do find myself making short complimentary remarks as I read blogs early and late in the day. It is less of a race to get points and more that I'm in a sort of self imposed time crunch wanting to read as many as I can find that appear to b e worthy of the time have to spend finding them and reading them. Ahhh, there are a lot of blogs here to sift through.

Posted by Charles Edwards about 10 years ago

nice article, and thanks for using my picture!

Posted by Ganesha about 10 years ago

Ganesha - Loved the photo, so thanks for taking it!  And of course, thanks for stopping by and reading the article too.

Posted by Matt Stigliano (Kimberly Howell Properties (210) 646-HOME) about 10 years ago